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Valerie's avatar

Thank you for this. My husband and I read this out loud to each other and nodded all the way through. We're hoping to start a family soon, and a lot of this has weighed heavy on my mind. It's immensely helpful to hear another, thoughtful perspective.

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Caroline Koehler's avatar

The idea of focusing on feelings as a measurement is so refreshing to me. So often I hear that the solution involves logisticizing my life & partnership, breaking down all the tasks, or coming up with a new system or chart (I am not great at these things nor do I have space for this type of task). And, especially as a woman, I am sometimes told to FEEL less!! I love that your "hack" does not involve adding anything wildly new, but is simply to feel & to let your partner feel (of course, checking in about those feelings takes time and attention). Thank you for writing this.

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